Urolagnia

A woman in stockings raising her skirt and urinating into the mouth of a man

Urolagnia (also urophilia, undinism, golden shower and watersports) is a form of salirophilia (which is a form of paraphilia) in which sexual excitement is associated with the sight or thought of urine or urination.^[1] The term has origins in the Greek language (from ouron - urine, and lagneia - lust).^[2][3]

Overview

As a paraphilia, urine may be consumed or the person may bathe in it. Other variations include arousal from wetting or seeing someone else urinate in their pants or underclothes, or wetting the bed. Other forms of urolagnia may involve a tendency to be sexually aroused by smelling urine-soaked clothing or body parts. In many cases, a strong correlation or conditioning arises between urine smell or sight, and the sexual act. For some individuals the phenomenon may include a diaper fetish and/or arousal from infantilism.

Urolagnia is sometimes associated with, or confused with, arousal from having a full bladder or a sexual attraction to someone else experiencing the discomfort or pain of a full bladder, possibly a sadomasochistic inclination.

Common variations

• Clothes wetting: The person is sexually aroused by wetting one's clothing or observing another person doing so. Usually that person prefers to stage the wetting so that his/her legs (or other body parts) become soaked with urine. The warm sensation felt when urine trickles on the body seems to give very relaxing and pleasurable feelings to the person. In many cases, that person is also aroused by smelling body parts that have a urine scent. Others get aroused by telling some people about when they lost control and wet themselves. Some prefer a particular type of clothing to urinate.
• Exhibitionism: Becoming noticeably desperate or wetting oneself with the express purpose of being seen by strangers. Practitioners have described going to public places such as a mall or a park. Some intend to create situations where others can see their wet clothing.
• Human urinal: Within the BDSM community, some individuals desire to be used as a human urinal and some desire to use a human urinal. The submissive is usually strictly forbidden from placing their lips directly on the body of the dominant so the practice routinely involves them receiving much of the spray all over their face, hair and body, however, another way of doing this that applies mostly to male dominants, is to place the mouth on the head of the penis and drink the urine as it is released.
• Omorashi: The act of holding one's own urine until the need to urinate is urgent, making another hold in their urine, or watching another person with an urgent need to urinate. This fetish sometimes originates from childhood memories of needing, or of seeing another needing, to urinate. Arousal may be triggered by seeing the body movements or facial expressions of that person. It can also be heightened by the person saying that they have to urinate. The arousal from being desperate comes from the sensation of having a full bladder.
• Pussing: British expression for an activity involving a consenting couple where the male partner watches the woman urinate otherwise undetected in a semi-public place, usually a toilet cubicle at a pub, hotel, restaurant, theatre/cinema, office, club, etc. The strategies and tactics that are used to smuggle one of the couple into and out of the toilet undetected are as important or almost as important as the urination. The activity is done by itself or as a part of or prelude to other activities which many times involve sex.
• Voyeurism: Seeing another urinate without the person's knowledge either through video taping by a hidden camera, or by lurking in locations where people are urinating or are likely to have an urge to urinate.

Frequency

Jennifer Eve Rehor of San Francisco State University points out that such data as exists on what she calls "unconventional" or "kink" sexual behavior is generally problematic because of the way that it has been collected, through criminal and clinical case studies.^[4] Behavior that appears neither in criminal trials nor in clinical studies (for example, because the individuals concerned do not commonly seek professional help) is therefore under-reported. Rehor therefore surveyed 1,764 female participants in "kink" behavior (mostly association with BDSM) in 2010-11, receiving 1,580 valid responses. What Rehor calls "urine play" is relatively infrequent, with only 36.52% of her sample reporting having done it or having had it done to them. In contrast, 93.99% of her sample reported having done spanking or having had it done to them, and 61.96% reported having used or been exposed to feathers/fur.^[5] It is impossible to extrapolate Rehor's data onto the general population, but her study does give a guide to prevalence in the North American BDSM community.

Notable urophiliacs

British sexologist Havelock Ellis.

• Havelock Ellis: British sexologist who was impotent until at age sixty he discovered that he was aroused by the sight of a woman urinating.^[6]
• Albert Fish: an American serial killer, also known as The Grayman, The Boogeyman. He wrote several letters to widows with want-ads in The New York Times and described in detail women urinating on him, inside of him, and in cups so that he could drink it. He later forced children to drink urine.^[7]
• Ashley MacIsaac: Nova Scotian fiddler and singer. In 1996 he spoke with a Maclean's interviewer mentioning his sexual life, including his boyfriend and his taste for urolagnia. In 2003 he told an interviewer for the Montreal Mirror that he loves to have men urinate on him.^[8]
• Ricky Martin: a Puerto Rican singer. He gave an interview with Blender magazine in which he stated that he enjoyed "giving the golden shower."^[9][10]
• Rockbitch: mostly female British band featuring many sexual acts including urination as part of their stage act.^[11]
• Annie Sprinkle: an American porn actress, later turned sex educator and advocate for female sexual enjoyment. Her stage name is derived from her obsession with fluids.^[12]
• Troughman: an Australian noted in the Sydney media for lying down in urinal troughs at Sydney Mardi Gras parties and other events.^[13]
• Ian Watkins: Former lead singer for the Welsh rock band Lostprophets. Convicted in December 2013 of numerous child sex abuse charges, which include urolagnia.^[14]
• Patrice O'Neal: American standup comedian who had on several occasions mentioned his appreciation for golden showers, even stating that his girlfriend noticing that his urine tasted like "birthday cake" is how he came to find out that he suffered from diabetes.^[15][16]

See also

• Flatulence fetishism
• Urination and sexual activity
• Urophagia

References

1. Dorland's Medical Dictionary for Healthcare Consumers
2. Colman, Andrew M. (2006). A Dictionary of Psychology. Oxford University Press. ISBN 978-0-19-280632-1. Retrieved 2009-01-08. Archived March 21, 2008, at the Wayback Machine.
3. Laws, Dr. Richard; William T. O'Donohue (1997). Sexual Deviance: Theory, Assessment, and Treatment. Guilford Press. p. 403. ISBN 978-1-57230-241-9. Retrieved 2009-01-08.
4. Jennifer Eve Rehor (2015), "Sensual, Erotic, and Sexual Behaviors of Women from the ‘'Kink’ Community," Archives of Sexual Behavior 44:825–836, DOI 10.1007/s10508-015-0524-2
5. Rehor (2015).
6. Andrew Brink (1980), "Havelock Ellis: eros and explanation (review of Phyllis Grosskurth, Havelock Ellis: a Biography)", Russell: the Journal of Bertrand Russell Studies 100 (1)
7. Harold Schechter (1990), Deranged: The Shocking True Story of America's Most Fiendish Killer (reedited, illustrated ed.), Simon and Schuster, pp. 92, 271–272, ISBN 9780671678753
8. Montreal Mirror report.
9. "Ricky Martin outraged over controversy caused by his 'golden shower' comment". Singapore: Agence France-Presse / Yahoo! Singapore Pte. Ltd. 2006-01-14. Archived from the original on 2007-01-25. Retrieved 2013-03-11. Latin crooner Ricky Martin has expressed outrage over controversy that emerged after he told a leading US music magazine he enjoyed "golden showers" -- the act of urinating on another person. ... "I love giving the golden shower," he told Blender magazine earlier.
10. Ricky Martin - Martin Regrets 'Golden Shower' Frankness
11. Video of Rockbitch performance.
12. Redaction, "Annie Sprinkle", Miradas (in Spanish), (...) she made herself get called Annie Sprinkle. Sprinkle (...) made reference to her obsession with fluids: "I was attracted by the sprinkles over ice cones and by the sound of humidity. I like cascades, urine, vaginal fluid, sweat, anything wet. So the name "Annie Sprinkle" seemed perfect."
13. Barry Charles (July 2003). "Troughman". Journal of Gay and Lesbian Social Services 15 (3&4): 65–74. doi:10.1300/J041v15n03_06.Robert Reynolds (July 2003). "Editor's Comment: Afternoon Tea with Troughman". Journal of Gay and Lesbian Social Services 15 (3&4): 70–74. doi:10.1300/J041v15n03_06.
14. http://www.ultimate-guitar.com/news/general_music_news/disturbing_ian_watkins_trial_details_surface_singer_sexually_touched_had_sex_with_and_urinated_on_children.html
15. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GIYFR1zBIZ0 Patrice O'Neal: Elephant in the Room on YouTube
16. http://www.jonahweiner.com/RS_Patrice_Jonah_Weiner.html Patrice O'Neal: Death of a Stand-Up by Jonah Weiner, originally published in Rolling Stone

External links

• Media related to Urolagnia at Wikimedia Commons